RECONNECT. REPAIR. REBUILD.
Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling in Colorado
Body-based, research-informed couples therapy to strengthen connection, rebuild trust, and create lasting change.
You’re Not Failing: You’re Stuck in a Pattern
You love each other.
But lately, it doesn’t feel easy.
The same argument keeps showing up.
The same silence follows.
The same distance lingers.
You try to talk it through.
It escalates.
Or someone shuts down.
And afterward, you both feel alone.
Not because you don’t care.
Because something keeps hijacking the connection.You might be quietly wondering:
Can I really say what I’m thinking without it blowing up?
If I’m fully honest, will you pull away?
Why does it feel harder to stay close than it used to?
Where did the lightness go?
This isn’t a compatibility failure.
It’s a protection pattern.
When stress rises, your nervous systems shift into survival.
Defend.
Pursue.
Withdraw.
Shut down.
And without realizing it, you start protecting yourselves from each other.
Couples therapy isn’t about deciding who’s right.
It’s about interrupting the pattern that keeps pulling you apart.
So you can:
Stay present.
Stay honest.
Stay connected — even when it’s hard.
You’re not broken.
You’re wired for attachment.
And attachment can be repaired.
INDIVIDUAL GROWTH WITHIN COUPLES THERAPY
Healthy relationships require individual participation.
Couples therapy isn’t about fixing “us”.
It’s about increasing your own capacity.
It’s about asking:
Am I showing up as my best self in this relationship?
Can I tolerate vulnerability without shutting down?
How do I manage fear of abandonment or rejection?
Can I express desire clearly?
Can I stay grounded when conflict arises?
Can I say what I’m really thinking — without attacking or collapsing?
Secure connection requires two regulated nervous systems
Real change happens when each partner increases:
Self-awareness
Emotional regulation
Ownership
Courage
Capacity for vulnerability
INCREASE INTIMACY & REBUILD PASSON
Passion doesn’t disappear.
It gets buried.
Under stress.
Under resentment.
Under responsibility.
Under unspoken hurt.
The flirting fades.
The lightness softens.
The honeymoon-phase energy feels far away.
But chemistry isn’t random.
It’s safety.
It’s curiosity.
It’s emotional availability.
And all of that can be rebuilt.
FROM DISTRESS TO EMODIED INTIMACY
YOUR BODY IS THE BRIDGE TO CONNECTION
Connection doesn’t break at the level of logic.
It breaks in the nervous system.
Before the argument escalates…
Before someone shuts down…
Before desire fades…
Your body has already reacted.
Guarded.
Activated.
Protective.
Couples don’t lose connection because they don’t care.
They lose it because their nervous systems stop feeling safe together.
In our work, we focus on:
Noticing stress responses before conflict spirals
Slowing escalation in real time
Understanding attachment triggers in the body
Shifting from defense to openness
Building co-regulation instead of mutual protection
When your body feels safe, you:
Speak more honestly.
Listen more openly.
Touch more freely.
Play more easily.
Safety isn’t just emotional.
It’s biological.
Regulation Creates Relationship Safety
You were wired to protect yourself.
But protection isn’t the same as intimacy.
Through somatic, experiential couples therapy, we increase your capacity to:
Stay present during hard conversations
Tolerate vulnerability without collapse
Express needs without attack
Repair after rupture
Remain connected even when you disagree
This is how emotional safety strengthens passion.
This is how regulation restores chemistry.
This is how secure attachment forms.
Your body isn’t the problem.
It’s the bridge back to each other.
From Survival to Secure Connection
We don’t force intimacy. We rebuild the conditions that allow it.
AREAS OF FOCUS
-
We work on breaking repetitive conflict cycles and improving how you communicate during stress. This includes reducing criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, and escalation while helping you express needs clearly and repair more effectively after conflict.
-
We support couples navigating the impact of addiction and recovery on the relationship.
This includes understanding how substance use or compulsive behaviors affect trust, communication, and emotional safety, while helping both partners develop healthier ways to respond.
We focus on setting boundaries, reducing enabling patterns, and strengthening the relationship without losing individual accountability.
This work supports both the recovery process and the stability of the partnership.
-
We focus on rebuilding trust after betrayal, secrecy, or broken agreements. This includes restoring emotional safety, working through resentment, and learning how to repair and reconnect in a way that feels consistent and reliable.
-
We explore how emotional intimacy is shaped by attachment patterns and nervous system responses.
This includes understanding fear of abandonment or rejection, emotional reactivity, and shutdown patterns that impact connection.
We work on increasing vulnerability, strengthening emotional responsiveness, and building co-regulation so you can feel safer, more connected, and more secure in the relationship.
-
We explore how stress, conflict, and emotional disconnection impact desire.
This includes rebuilding playfulness, increasing comfort with touch, and supporting open, direct communication about intimacy and sexual connection.
-
Even when separation/divorce is the right decision, it’s still a loss.
Grief. Identity shifts. Rebuilding.We support couples navigating uncertainty about the future of the relationship. This includes exploring whether to repair or separate, having honest conversations with clarity, and approaching decisions with intention rather than reactivity.
-
Shared parenting. New boundaries. Managing conflict.
Wanting to protect your children from unnecessary harm.We help couples navigate the complexities of blended families and co-parenting dynamics.
This includes aligning parenting approaches, managing boundaries with extended family, and maintaining connection within shifting roles and responsibilities.
Every relationship has patterns.
Some create connection.
Some create distance.
We identify what’s happening and shift it.
You don’t have to fit perfectly into a category.
If you feel stuck in a pattern and want something different, that’s enough.
Ready to Begin?
If you’re tired of repeating the same argument…
If you’re tired of feeling close one day and disconnected the next…
If you’re tired of protecting yourselves from each other…
And you’re ready to stop abandoning the relationship in the process—
Complete the pre-screen form to begin.
We’ll schedule a consultation call and explore whether this work feels like the right fit for both of you.
You don’t have to stay stuck in survival mode.
And you don’t have to figure this out alone.
VULNERABILITY WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF
Many partners fear that being vulnerable means losing power.
Or that speaking honestly will cause conflict.
Or that asking for more intimacy will lead to rejection.
In therapy, we build the nervous system capacity to:
Stay grounded while expressing hard truths
Ask for reassurance without shame
Hold boundaries without threat
Repair after emotional risk
Secure relationships are built on truth — not performance.
WHAT IT’S LKE TO WORK WITH ME
Let’s be clear.
I’m not the quiet, nodding therapist who lets you repeat the same fight.
We work with clarity and intention.
I’m interactive.
I slow things down.
I name patterns in real time.
I teach practical tools.
I challenge when needed.
Not to blame.
To build skill.
You’ll leave understanding what’s happening — and what to do differently.
We will laugh.
We will say the hard things.
We will move.
Because change isn’t just cognitive.
It’s embodied.
Therapy is like scuba diving.
We build capacity first.
Then we go deeper.
And I’m right there with you.
THE GOAL
No circling the same argument.
No holding onto being “right.”
No talking without shifting.
The goal is this:
You trust yourselves.
You regulate instead of react.
You communicate with clarity.
You repair without defensiveness.
You set boundaries without threat.
You stay connected — even when it’s hard.
More steadiness.
More intimacy.
More confidence in your relationship.
Less survival.
More secure love.
Not Ready for Therapy? Start with Beyond Words.
If you’re looking for a fun, interactive way to explore communication and connection — without committing to ongoing therapy — Beyond Words workshops offer a guided, experiential space for relationship growth.
These Colorado couples workshops focus on embodied connection, structured exercises, and practical tools you can use immediately.
It’s not therapy.
It’s relationship development — in motion.
Your Questions, Answered
-
You don’t need a perfect explanation for why you’re here.
If you’re repeating the same conflict, feeling emotionally distant, or struggling to rebuild trust after conflict, couples therapy can help.
You don’t need to be in crisis to begin. Many couples start marriage counseling to strengthen communication, increase intimacy, or reconnect before resentment deepens.
If something feels off — and you both want change — that’s enough.
Willingness matters more than perfection.
-
The timeline depends on your goals and how deeply rooted the patterns are.
Some couples seek short-term support to improve communication.
Others choose deeper attachment-based couples therapy to rebuild trust, increase intimacy in marriage, or address long-standing disconnection.We revisit goals regularly so therapy stays focused and intentional.
Progress also depends on involvement between sessions.
Couples who practice new skills, reflect on patterns, and apply what we discuss in real-life moments tend to see change more quickly. Therapy provides direction — but growth happens in daily interactions.
The goal isn’t endless therapy.
It’s lasting change.
-
It’s common for one partner to reach out first.
Couples therapy isn’t about blame or choosing sides. It’s about identifying the pattern between you and creating healthier ways to communicate and repair.
If your partner is unsure, we can talk through what online couples therapy looks like and how it supports both individuals.
-
We don’t start with what’s broken.
We start with what’s working.
Even in strained relationships, there are strengths and resources already present. We build from those.
In the early sessions, we clarify:
Your conflict cycle
Emotional and nervous system triggers
What’s already supporting your relationship
Your goals for couples therapy
Think of therapy like a road trip.
You wouldn’t leave without a map or fuel.
Couples therapy builds the skills and resources — communication, regulation, repair — that help you move forward with clarity.
You’ll leave with direction, not confusion.
-
Most couples begin weekly to build momentum and emotional safety.
As communication skills strengthen and attachment security increases, sessions may shift to biweekly.
The goal of couples counseling is increased relational competence — not long-term dependency.
-
My approach is trauma-informed, attachment-based, and grounded in nervous system science.
I integrate evidence-based models including the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with somatic and experiential interventions. This allows us to address both the interaction cycle and the emotional and physiological responses driving it.
Our work focuses on:
Interrupting maladaptive patterns
Increasing emotional regulation and co-regulation
Strengthening secure attachment
Building structured communication and repair skills
Couples therapy here is both insight-oriented and skills-based, with clear goals and measurable progress.
The aim is sustainable relational change — greater stability, responsiveness, and emotional safety within the partnership.
-
I offer virtual sessions only.
Meeting online allows you to choose a space where you feel most comfortable—whether that’s your living room, office, or another private spot that feels steady and supportive. There’s no travel time, traffic, or parking stress—just intentional space focused on your work.
-
Investing in couples/marriage counseling is an investment in the long-term health of your relationship.
Self-pay: $195 per 53-minute couples therapy session
Kaiser insurance accepted
Out-of-network reimbursement supported through Thrizer
Good Faith Estimate provided under the No Surprises Act
We’ll review payment options during your consultation so you feel informed and confident moving forward.
-
Yes. I accept Kaiser insurance.
If you have out-of-network (OON) benefits with another plan, I use Thrizer to help simplify reimbursement. This allows you to use your OON benefits without managing the paperwork yourself.
Working with insurance can sometimes require a mental health diagnosis for coverage. If privacy and flexibility are important to you, self-pay may also be an option.
I recommend contacting your insurance provider to understand your specific coverage and out-of-network benefits. We’ll review everything together during your consultation so you feel clear before beginning.
-
Ready to move forward?
Click Begin the Process below and complete the pre-screen form. After reviewing it, I’ll reach out to schedule your consultation.
You’ll hear back within 1–2 business days.
Simple. Direct. Intentional.